Public Service Announcement
Dec. 8th, 2003 01:40 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rootofnewtFolks, when entering into a relationship, be it love, business, or any type of personal thing, don't assume anything.
Do not assume the relationship is exclusive.
Do not assume that it is not.
Do not assume that the other party/parties in the relationship know what you're thinking.
Don't assume that they're thinking what you're thinking.
Don't assume that anything is the default--monogamy, polyamory, business discounts, wholesale price, whatever.
Don't assume that out of sight = out of mind. Don't assume that it does not.
In short--quit making assumtptions.
Talk. Communicate. Lay it all out. Express what you feel and don't draw your own conclusions because unless you actually share a brain with the other folks involved, you do not have all the information. Lay out as many guidelines as possible before you share money or resources or feelings or bodily fluids with other people. Be flexible. BUT KEEP TALKING.
For those of you who haven't seen it and are experiencing trouble along these lines not related to business transactions, please refer to the this.
And one more thing--don't assume I have no idea what I'm talking about. Trust me. We all make mistakes. Just do the smart thing and LEARN from them, okay?
Do not assume the relationship is exclusive.
Do not assume that it is not.
Do not assume that the other party/parties in the relationship know what you're thinking.
Don't assume that they're thinking what you're thinking.
Don't assume that anything is the default--monogamy, polyamory, business discounts, wholesale price, whatever.
Don't assume that out of sight = out of mind. Don't assume that it does not.
In short--quit making assumtptions.
Talk. Communicate. Lay it all out. Express what you feel and don't draw your own conclusions because unless you actually share a brain with the other folks involved, you do not have all the information. Lay out as many guidelines as possible before you share money or resources or feelings or bodily fluids with other people. Be flexible. BUT KEEP TALKING.
For those of you who haven't seen it and are experiencing trouble along these lines not related to business transactions, please refer to the this.
And one more thing--don't assume I have no idea what I'm talking about. Trust me. We all make mistakes. Just do the smart thing and LEARN from them, okay?
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Date: 2003-12-08 09:49 pm (UTC)-Good Charlotte
I dunno, those lyrics came into my head after reading your entry.
I believe trust is the most important thing in any relationship, especially romantic ones. And central to and required for trust is COMMUNICATION. Wow, who'da thunk?
Sometimes tho, I feel the way Good Charlotte says, that no matter how much I communicate or that I get out of my partner, there is so much that he won't tell me. And it ends up hurting me later...