Public Service Announcement

[rootofnewt]

Folks, when entering into a relationship, be it love, business, or any type of personal thing, don't assume anything.

Do not assume the relationship is exclusive.
Do not assume that it is not.
Do not assume that the other party/parties in the relationship know what you're thinking.
Don't assume that they're thinking what you're thinking.
Don't assume that anything is the default--monogamy, polyamory, business discounts, wholesale price, whatever.
Don't assume that out of sight = out of mind. Don't assume that it does not.
In short--quit making assumtptions.

Talk. Communicate. Lay it all out. Express what you feel and don't draw your own conclusions because unless you actually share a brain with the other folks involved, you do not have all the information. Lay out as many guidelines as possible before you share money or resources or feelings or bodily fluids with other people. Be flexible. BUT KEEP TALKING.

For those of you who haven't seen it and are experiencing trouble along these lines not related to business transactions, please refer to the this.

And one more thing--don't assume I have no idea what I'm talking about. Trust me. We all make mistakes. Just do the smart thing and LEARN from them, okay?

Comments

[lady-midnite.livejournal.com]

Wow. I'm so glad that you posted this. I think so many people take our relationships for granted, and do stop talking to one another about what is needed/wanted/expected. I really also liked the link you included, I'd been curious about it, but really didnt know where to go to ask questions about it, and you answered all of them. Youre always so in tune with most of us and the events going on in our lives. Thanks so much for this today!